new and improved friend gauge

when my sisters and i were kids we used to gauge how important a friend was by asking the question, "would you invite them to your birthday party?" and to this day to some degree i still gauge friends that way. but when i was talking to my mom last night she suggested another measure. probably a more fitting version since we aren't so inclined to have birthday parties anymore..

"would you visit them if they were in the hospital? would they visit you?"

this is something that is kind of telling, i've been going through different scenarios in my head about this since...